Monday, September 16, 2013

Why we need to stop using the word Hater.....


Hater: A person that simply cannot be happy for another person's success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.

I remember hearing this word for the first time and immediately being put off by it. Why? To me the word brings up connotations of the word Bitch, and the N word. Sure, it clearly doesn't hold the vulgarity that those two words do, but make no mistake it does hold its negativity.

You see when you call someone a hater, you in turn become one. This world is full of people who will constantly talk behind your back, call you names, and try to knock you down. When you expose them and call them a "hater" aren't you doing but the exact same thing? Aren't you trying to knock them back down? Expose their flaws? Call them out? In reality you give those people who are envious or jealous of  you the satisfaction of getting under your skin, regardless if it's true or not. You have given the power to the hater, instead of retaining it for yourself.

"Hating" should not be socially acceptable in any form. You know what happens when you do? It becomes acceptable. The consequence is being a "hater", and who really cares about that? My concern is that our youth will not care to be called a hater, just like some women of today don't care to be called a bitch. That the word will become empowered by our youth, and quite frankly we can't have that. I don't promote hate in any form!  If you do, you get the aftermath of  something as simple as the Miss America 2014 pageant. Tweets and social comments about an Indian-American woman not being "American" enough to win the title. Yes, these  comments are racist  BUT they are also HATE comments. Just haters right? NO. Stop using the word, stop empowering negativity. Instead take whatever bad is being thrown at you and turn it into something positive. Stop acknowledging Hate. There are no "haters", there are only those can not see the joy.


There is no such thing as "just words"
Loving you,
DB

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